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Is she the marrying type?

Posted on August 16, 2013 at 07:43 PM.

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August 16th, 2013

First let me declare the obvious. Yes, there are many women out there and all of them in one way or another bring something different to the table. Although they may have multiple similarities, no two women are exactly alike.
With that being said if you are not married already then I ask you the question. What type of woman are you looking for? What qualities must a woman possess to be considered "Marriage Material"?
Are you the shallow type of guy who sees no further than the physical anatomy and ignores the intellect? Or do you prefer that intelligence is a must have and the physicality can be somewhat compromised given the appropriate situation. What about social, economical and educational background? Is any of this relevant or even necessary when trying to choose a wife?
I mean after all surely most men don't scrutinize someone that they know will not be apart of there long term goal, or is it even wrong to do such a thing. Do men really care what her parents do for a living or how clean she keeps her room or car. If her room were dirty does that means she will ultimately be dirty or if her parents were not broke but definitely not rich then how then would you categorize her outcome?
I tell you what, if you have answered the above paragraph without including yourself as being someone who can add to who she is then the issue with her marriage qualities are not an issue. The issue would then be you mister.
Marriage is not one-sided. Nor can you determine how a woman will develop into a wife especially if its her first married. A man must be a leader in the relationship and this doesn't mean that he is to be a dictator but he should be a motivator and compliment his wife to greatness.
A real husband doesn't blame his wife when things begin to fall apart and they begin to encounter hardship in trying to make ends meet. A leader will find a way to provide and restore stability back to his relationship and develop a plan hopefully that will prevent reoccurrence or in some case sustain them through it.
When a woman knows she has a man like that, then you will be amazed at how happy your home will be. You will soon notice that she has always had something great inside of her, but it was just laying dormant until her husband figured out how to draw it out of her.
So the next time you go visit your friend and you notice how happy his wife is, don't question the qualities of your wife and start comparing wives. But just know that your friend figured how to unlock the greatness inside his wife. Will you be able to do the same?

Comments

# 1 tHurley2010 @ Aug 16

Isn't it entirely possible for that relationship you described in your last few paragraphs to work the other way too? I get what you're saying, and you make a good point.

# 2 inkcil @ Aug 17

Wow man, brilliant insight! As a married man you sound like you been counseling people for the last 25 years, lol.

Me personally, I was always a loner throughout my life. So the hardest thing for me in marriage was that overnight I was a Leader.

# 3 tarek @ Aug 19

Good points. Relationships change over time, if you can understand that the honeymoon period won't last, that you will have conflict and hard times, and your relationship WILL change, then that is one of the first steps to building and growing together. Alot of people chase that feeling that you have in the initial period, with sayings such as 'lost the spark' or 'lost the love' which often is an excuse for not accepting that the relationship has changed. The spark usually never leaves, it just burns differently.
I'm married with 2 young daughters, my wife and I have a totally different relationship than the one when we first met, but we love and care for each other more and respect the journey we have taken so far (both ups and downs) and look forward to the journeys ahead.